Today is my 15th wedding annivarsary. 15 years married to a beautiful and wonderful person. 15 years married to a theist.So here’s a thread dedicated to diversity at the micro level — mixed marriages. They CAN work, as long as you don’t try to change each other. Love a theist? Chime in!
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You said does a=b?, then said a=b is unknowable therefore ab
Then said…
Logician heal thyself.
..ab = a does not equal b..
$&@#$^%* angle brackets parsed out…
15 years for my wife and I also. I think our marraige works because neither of us takes our beliefs (or non-beliefs) too seriously. After all, neither of us has evidence to support our view.
I think, though, that I’m rubbing off on her. She has recently expressed some doubt.
On Love;
Love is an instinct that is present in many species. However, not all species show evidence of love. Just as not all humans are capable of love(ASD,etc…)
Love is best shown to be genetic in humans because of the varied ways in which our species has the ability to love.
Personal or physical:
Some are genetically attracted to the same sex.
Some want love transgenderally.
Some will only procreate with their “freudian mothers or fathers”
(if they don’t eat them first, and start all the worlds religions.)
Some prefer another species
(see Idaho)
Some want only relatives
(see “FLDS”)
I remember this from college:
When it comes to offspring all species exist on a spectrum of K-R selection and spend a certain amount of resources available on either or both:
1.quality of young (ex. one kid born, one kid to Harvard. or one baby cow etc)
2.quantity of young (ex. “Meaning of Life”, “Every sperm is precious”. or Spiders etc)
A certain amount of resource is invested in making the offspring. then a certain amount of resources, (or none) are used supporting those offspring. If a species has a combination of the two (K&R) that works the species “TENDS” to survive to produce its own offspring, and is considered successful.
A lot of what determines if a species is more K or R selective, is determined by the amount of time the offspring requires to “get on its’ own two feet”
Since spiders are born “ready to go” they require no K selection. Few may make it to adulthood, so the spider has to reproduce in vast numbers to sustain itself.
Conversely, we require about 18-21 years to reach maturity. We therefore require massive amounts of resources to sustain our offspring and our species.
If we did not have the instinct to care for our young(love our young) we wouldn’t have made it very far as a species.
Therefore love is only a byproduct of our own instincts.(the need to find a mate and perpetuate the species) But it is also the greatest gift given to us by our ancestors through evolution.
(Don’t bring up pets as a counterpoint, please. I know we domesticated them so they could get “cute”, and domesticate us.)
I’ve been married to my wife, who is catholic, for 12 years now and everything is wonderful. My two kids go to church. My feeling on the matter is it didn’t hurt my religious viewpoint when I went to church as a kid, let them make their decision on their own when they are old enough to do so.
For me to put my views on them would be as bad as the other way around. We each need to make our way through this world in the way that makes the most sense for ourselves.
Karen,
Just a word, since I always enjoy your comments. Over the last several months I?ve been hanging around here, I have found your remarks to be very consistent; reflecting a mind that has strong continuity, whatever else is going on under the surface. We are not friends here at this site but after reading countless posts I think we are acquaintances in some filtered way and I hope you can wrestle some of the crap out of your life. Want some of mine?
I would have married the first girl I was in love when, when I was 19. She believed in that Jesus crap. However, I loved her so much I would have, had I had the opportunity.. it was that strong.
Otherwise, I don’t have the patience or tolerance to date a theist.. unless I so click with them it’s sick. However, even if I did get with one, I would, over time, talk to them about it and get them to read something like “Losing Faith in Faith” by Dan Barker… eventually, if they love you enough, they will listen and not be afraid to learn… even change their minds.
Especially since I like to make fun of theism every chance I get.